I’ve been sitting with this truth lately:

Love isn’t conditional—but it is conditional.

At first, that might sound contradictory, but it’s not.

Love in its purest form doesn’t require you to earn your worth. You don’t have to hustle to be good enough or prove your value to deserve tenderness. That’s the part of love that is unconditional—your humanity makes you worthy.

But for love to be healthy—for it to grow and sustain—you need conditions.

Mutual respect

Emotional safety

Consistency over chaos

Anything less isn’t love. It’s attachment.

It’s trauma bonds.

It’s a familiarity you confuse with belonging.

I’ve learned this in my own journey—especially when I stayed in spaces that felt like home because they mirrored old wounds. I thought if I could just be “good enough,” I’d finally be chosen, finally be safe.

But love that requires you to shrink, silence your needs, or betray your boundaries isn’t love at all.

It’s survival.

If this resonates with you—if you’re tired of confusing attachment with love—I want you to know you’re not alone.

Inside The Mommy Movement, we hold space for mothers who are unlearning old patterns, reclaiming their voice, and learning to honor the conditions that keep love safe and nourishing.

You deserve connection that feels like freedom, not captivity.

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