For years, I thought being in love meant sacrifice—big, painful sacrifices that left me feeling like a stranger to myself.

I’d tone down my personality, hold back my opinions, or neglect my own needs just to “keep the peace.” I told myself that was maturity, that it was love. But it wasn’t.

It was self-abandonment.

Here’s the truth I’ve learned—love that is aligned with God will never ask you to abandon the woman He created you to be.

Yes, real love requires compromise, patience, and humility, but it will not require you to erase yourself. It will not make you betray the values God placed in your heart.

This has been a season of recognizing that in relationships, jobs, friendships—everywhere—love that comes from God will make room for all of you. It will encourage you to grow, but never at the cost of your identity or purpose.

I saw this clearly in my last relationship. There were good moments, but to maintain it, I had to quiet parts of myself God was asking me to amplify. I had to choose between their comfort and my calling. And I realized—if it’s from God, it will fit the life He’s building in you, not fight against it.

I’ve also seen it in my career shift. Leaving my old job wasn’t just about finding a healthier work environment—it was about refusing to stay in a place where I had to abandon my peace and purpose just to survive. God’s love for me meant leading me somewhere that supported who He made me to be.

So here’s my reminder to you—if something or someone constantly asks you to leave yourself behind, it’s not love aligned with God. And you deserve the kind of love that lets you stand fully in who you are, not shrink into who they prefer.

✨ Inside The Mommy Movement, we talk about releasing self-abandonment and walking in God-aligned love—because healing is sacred when it’s shared.

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